Reflecting on the Meaning of Christmas as a Foster Carer

By Laura Buksh, Psychotherapist

Hello All,

As the holiday season approaches, I find myself reflecting on what Christmas means to me as well as what it could mean to you as a foster carer. It’s a time of year that holds a special place in many peoples heart, and I wanted to share some thoughts with you all.

Christmas, for me, transcends the decorations, the festive meals, and the exchanging of gifts. It embodies the spirit of love, compassion, and togetherness. As foster carers, you play a unique role in bringing these qualities to the forefront, especially for the children in your care.

  1. Creating a Sense of Belonging: Christmas is a time when everyone should feel a sense of belonging, and this sentiment holds particular significance for the children who may have experienced the challenges of displacement. As foster carers, you have the privilege of creating a warm and welcoming environment that helps children feel like they truly belong, not just during the holidays, but every day.
  2. Building Lasting Memories: The memories we create during the holiday season have the power to last a lifetime. Whether it’s baking cookies together, decorating the tree, or sharing stories by the fireplace, these moments become building blocks for the children’s sense of self and family. As foster carers, you have the opportunity to contribute to positive and cherished memories that can endure beyond the challenges the children may have faced.
  3. Teaching Values of Generosity and Kindness: Christmas is a time for giving, and as foster carers, you have the chance to instill the values of generosity and kindness in the children. Whether it’s by volunteering together, participating in charity events, or simply expressing gratitude for the support they receive, you can help nurture a sense of empathy and compassion.
  4. Navigating Challenges with Grace: The holiday season can also bring about unique challenges, both for the children in your care and for you as foster carers. It’s a time when emotions may run high, and memories of the past can resurface. However, it’s in facing these challenges with grace, understanding, and an unwavering commitment to the well-being of the children that we truly embody the spirit of Christmas.

In essence, Christmas for me is about embracing the opportunity to provide love, stability, and joy to children who may not have experienced these elements consistently in their lives. It’s about being a source of comfort, hope, and positive transformation. But its also the time for you to celebrate your inner child with the magic of Christmas weather that’s with your friends or wider family.

Wishing you all a joyful and fulfilling holiday season!